Cicely Whitehead
I met Cicely many years ago now, and I have social media to thank for the way we’ve been able to stay connected - to quietly keep up with one another’s lives and notice the many interests and values we share.
Cicely is an actor, writer, and avid reader, and she is unfailingly my go-to for thoughtful book recommendations. I have discovered some brilliant writing thanks to her suggestions. Our exchanges over the years often began with comments on books, or me asking for her thoughts on a popular title. But through this, we soon discovered we had a lot more in common.
I admire Cicely and her gentle but intentional approach to life. I’m very excited about her new writing project, solitudes, via Substack, and I’m so glad we get to delve deeper into her world through this interview, enjoy!
Please introduce yourself, and what it is you so wonderfully do:
I’m Cicely, and I’m an actor, voice artist and occasional writer, mainly writing about books I’ve enjoyed @bookworthreading.
What is your ideal way to start the day?
My ideal way to start the day doesn’t look like my current morning routine, unfortunately, thanks to a cat solely driven by his stomach anywhere between 4 and 5am. However, my ideal way to start the day is to wake up slowly and try and get in a few pages of my book, before making myself a green tea or lemon water. This is followed by exercise, either pilates or yoga, and meditation of some form, shower, and a podcast.
Do you have any daily rituals/ routines?
I work from home, so I sometimes struggle to create a distinction between work mode and relaxing, but I find that lighting candles or an incense after I’ve finished my working day helps me shift into relaxation, and try to read a little before making dinner to switch off my brain and take my eyes away from a screen.
Do you have any practices or remedies to stay healthy, both in body and mind?
I love walking, and try to get out every day for a walk along the beach for both its physical and mental benefits. I moved close to the sea a couple of years ago, and watching the way the coastline changes almost daily is incredible. It also serves as a perfect reminder to breathe, pause and take stock, however hectic life is at that moment. I carry a bottle of rescue remedy in my bag, too, which is more of a comfort blanket than anything, but nice to know it’s there!
When you need to get out of town/ out of routine, where do you go or what do you do to escape?
Living by the sea means that I can go down to the beach on my lunch break, but I love going further along the coast on my days off where it feels a bit wilder. I also love the South Downs and feel a huge attachment to them, and am constantly inspired by the landscape and its history. Visiting art galleries, exhibitions and museums is something I find very reinvigorating, too, and come away from them feeling full and creatively nourished.
How do you like to spend your nights and or/weekends?
I am a massive homebody, so making dinner and having a good series to watch is my idea of heaven. I’ve also got back into knitting over the past few months, so I will knit whilst watching tv to avoid second screening and the inevitable doomscroll!
On the weekends I love getting out for a walk either to the coast or countryside, but I also really enjoy a good scour of the charity shops! There are lots of excellent ones where I live, and get a real thrill from finding something exciting; whether it’s a book I’ve wanted to read for a while, a bookshelf to store said books, or some handmade ceramics. Part of the joy is in the searching.
How do you unwind, re-centre and find balance?
I am a huge advocate of the restorative benefits of reading, and try to read at least every night before going to sleep. Getting lost in a book helps to quieten my very chatty mind! I also love beachcombing as it forces you to walk slowly and with intention, looking at the ground with more attention than you would do normally.
I am scarily aware how much time I spend on my phone, so at the end of last year I made sure to counter the anxiety that comes with having the world’s news at your fingertips by doing more with my hands so that I simply couldn’t be on my phone. Part of this involved buying a secondhand guitar, which has been so rewarding to get back into, and there is something really satisfying in learning to play my favourite songs. In the same vein, I’ve got back into making for the sake of making, like beaded jewellery, keyrings and knitting - re-connecting to the things that lit me up when I was little has been a bit of an eye opener.
What is your favourite form of movement?
Exercise has been crucial over the past few years for both my mind and my body as it immediately gets me out of my head and helps me to physically move through things. I used to think that HIIT and running were the best things for me, but leaning into slower practices like yoga and pilates has been transformative.
Your favourite meal to cook?
One recipe I turn to again and again is Rachel Roddy’s broccoli ripassati with pasta.
Your favourite place to get dinner?
I love Koya in Soho for the best ramen.
Your guilty pleasure? :)
I’m currently rewatching Gilmore Girls which is more of a pleasure than anything else!
Do you experience any challenges in your work/life balance? If so, how do you navigate this?
As an actor you are constantly met with challenges around employment uncertainty, rejection and self-doubt, and it’s hard not to let those things define you. The past year in particular I’ve really come up against the idea of my job being my identity, and what happens when this is called into question in some way, which at times has been incredibly confronting. It’s a huge learning process, and after almost 10 years in the industry is something I’m still working out, but realising that I am a whole person regardless of my employment status and looking after that person has been the first step. It sounds basic, but doing things for the sake of seeking joy, and not putting off those potential moments of joy has really helped to form some semblance of balance. Eating well, getting enough sleep, seeing people I love and getting fresh air are simple but often the most beneficial!
What/where/who do you turn to when you need inspiration?
I find a lot of inspiration from books and literary figures, and try to write down quotes I love from writers, poets and other creatives to return to. I find inspiration in poems, song lyrics and in films and tv, particularly artists and creatives such as Self Esteem, Eva Victor and Jessie Buckley to name but a few. A good play will be a source of inspiration for weeks or months on end! I love art books, and will devour anything about the Bloomsbury Group, as well as artists like Hilma af Klint, Louise Bourgeois and Tove Jansson. I also love Pinterest, particularly for creative projects, and Substack for some of the best and most accessible writing.
How would you describe your style? What & who influences you?
I’m not sure how I would define my style, but I don’t think it’s changed that much since my twenties! A lot of my wardrobe is secondhand which takes me away from trend-led pieces and instead working with shapes, textures and prints that I am drawn to instead. I love giving clothing another life and part of the fun is finding new ways to style certain items.
I suppose it’s quite vintage inspired, and I’m influenced by costume in film, artists’ workwear, Pinterest and my own comfort. And my sister’s wardrobe.
What is your definition of beauty?
The most beautiful people I know have a glow about them when you can tell they are truly comfortable in their own skin and how they exist in their body. Unselfconsciousness, freedom and happiness are truly beautiful.
I also think that there is so much beauty in paying attention, which is something that feels like we have forgotten how to do as a society. I think it can be summed up by these words by the poet Mary Oliver, who knew all about the beauty in the everyday: “Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.”
Do you have any additional ways that you care for your mind, body & spirit?
I love To Be Magnetic, which is a manifestation method created by Lacy Phillips, but I mainly use it for the self-hypnosis style meditations which can be both grounding and create life-changing revelations all at once!
What are you most grateful for in your life?
My health, my family and friends, my cats, and being safe. Trite but true!
Current favourite...
Book - I’m currently reading Rural Hours by Harriet Baker about the country lives of the writers Virginia Woolf, Sylvia Townsend-Warner and Rosamund Lehmann. It is everything I could want in a book.
Movie - I saw Hamnet a few weeks ago and can’t get it out of my head
Song - Long Winter by Johnny Flynn and Robert Macfarlane
Podcast - I am a podcast fiend so choosing one is very hard! I love On Being and wish it would make a comeback, as well as the Expanded podcast and Talk Easy. For pure joy, the Elis James and John Robins podcast.
Clothing item - A purple cashmere cardigan I found for £2.50
Coffee shop - Loam in Brighton
Where can we find you? Follow you?
You can find me on Instagram @cicelywhitehead, and @bookworthreading for all things book related!